I am a little shocked that I actually got a response to this and apologize for being so frustrated with the plugin. I really would like to use it and loved it before, but now am having so many problems with the upgrade.
I do not have a test site, as this is a hosted account and have spent HOURS going over this with what I perceived as very little help (besides the one default answer).
So, I have managed to get it installed and the database migrated, though here are some suggestions that will perhaps help in new releases.
Error check! My db upgrade was not due to out dated PHP. It was because I did not have groups and forums enabled for buddypress. I use a different forum plugin. As soon as it was enabled it upgraded without a problem. Shouldn’t the upgrade script check for prerequisites and default to fail if not exist?
Second (which I am dealing with now is that I already have a media page that I created. Now is where it is failing.
I would be happy to provide login details so that you can take a look at it and give me some assistance and again, no offense and thanks for the help!