i am glad i found a solution and it can help out others in the future. i never thought to check there since i figured every thing should be already set since my max upload size was already well over what the size most mp4 videos most would upload. it was after reading a page i found on Google that i go and check to see what the post size was. i do not know how well this will work for any one who can not change their php ini files as i have had issues in the past when using shared hosting account and having to make a php ini file to handle the max upload mem and post sizes i was still limited to on how big i could set them before the host either stepped in and deleted the file or the server would reject it and would revert to the preset standards.
maybe their is some one who can try a bunch of the free hosting sites that are of the most popular ones used and reach out to any one who may already be using this plugin but has a host that dose not let them change their php ini files and they have to use a secondary php ini to find out what the limits can be set at for that case.
as i suspect this plugin will become very popular for any WordPress site with BuddyPress installed as it provides so much more functionality than any other media plugin out there that allows users to just more than upload pics with out having to get multipal plugins to cover music and videos or one that dose have all 3 but are stuck having to sign up with a 3rd party to host every thing.which i have been avoiding because as my site has grown if i had to use such a plugin i would be paying out more than im taking in at this time and would have had to drop since it would not be economical to pay a third party to host my users media files.